Dating & Relationships

Getting Your Needs Met

Let’s make this one short and sweet. I’ve found in my years of working with men that many will very, very quickly start neglecting their own needs and desires in order to fulfill someone else’s. And there’s nothing inherently wrong with that IF (and only if) there’s balance. Listen in.


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Kyle Creek – On Depression, Social Media, And Entering Into Fatherhood

Ladies and gentlemen, Kyle Creek, aka The Captain. When I first came across this man’s work, I greatly admired his amazing ability to get straight to the point. I’ve wanted to have him on the show ever since. This is a wide-ranging, honest conversation on fatherhood, depression, how social media affects our individuality, and so much more. 

Also, I’m going to share his website bio here unedited because it’s…well, it’s just fantastic.

“As a kid, I wanted to be a cowboy. Then, my mom bought me a skateboard and I got on with my life. In college, I decided copywriting was the career move for me and, for the last decade, I’ve held a variety of creative positions both in-house and within agency settings. I’ve also published five books, spoken at events around the country, and educated the masses about shark dating as the host of “Shark Sex 101” for Discovery Channel’s ever-popular Shark Week series.

My work has had its share of recognition — but nothing will ever mean as much to me as the “2016 AAF People’s Choice Show Winner” award that I received for tattooing a former employer’s face on my ass as part of a charity auction.

My only regret in life is being just a grammar gunslinger and not an actual cowboy. I don’t even own a horse.”

Connect with Kyle

-Website: https://www.kylecreek.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sgrstk/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/sgrstk

 

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The One Question I’d Ask On A Date

A member of the ManTalks Alliance asked me this question: what’s a big question you’d ask a woman on a first or second date? Well, here it is. Listen through to the end for the big picture.


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Britt Frank – Motivation, Anxiety, And The Science Of Stuck

This. Was. So enjoyable. Britt has a gift for cutting through to the heart of seemingly complex topics. Her book, The Science of Stuck, resonated with me in the best way, so I had to have her on the show. We cover a lot, but mainly where to begin working with anxiety, motivation, and feeling stuck—things I think every one of us has experienced on some level.

Born and raised in NY, Britt struggled for more than two decades with chemical/behavioral addictions, eating disorders, depression, anxiety, OCD, trichotillomania, crazy-making relationships, and complex PTSD.  After finding her way out of that mess (with a lot of help and a brief stint in a religious cult), Britt changed careers, went back to graduate school, and became a therapist. 

Britt received her undergraduate degree from Duke University and her master’s degree from the University of Kansas. She is a licensed psychotherapist and trauma expert who is trained in IFS (Internal Family Systems) and SE (Somatic Experiencing). In addition to her private practice, Britt is also a speaker and an award-winning adjunct instructor at the University of Kansas, where she’s taught classes on ethics, addiction, and clinical social work. 

Connect with Britt

-Website: https://www.scienceofstuck.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittfrank/

-Book: The Science of Stuck: https://amzn.to/3um4iqb


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Can A Relationship Be Repaired After Infidelity?

My opinion is yes, but it’s NOT easy. Most (if not all) of us will experience some form of infidelity or betrayal over the course of our relationship history. Shouldn’t we pay more attention to even the possibility of repair, as well as learn ways of repairing effectively?

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What Every Man Should Know About Sex

Specifically, about how his nervous system handles sex.

Continuing on the theme this week—first Dr. Laurie Watson and now my own work. I’ve asked this question at men’s weekends, in coachings, and the answer almost always surprises me. A lot of men know the very, very basics of arousal in their own bodies, but that’s…it. Let’s change that.


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Dr. Laurie Watson – How To Ask For Sex, Sexless Marriages, And How To Keep Things Vibrant

Sex is where so many couples’ abilities to communicate, be vulnerable, be expressive, and navigate each other’s needs gets tested. Now, this can be a great thing—it can also be where things fall apart.

This week, I sat down with Dr. Laurie Watson to get her insight on some of the bigger challenges men and couples face sexually: sexless marriages, expressing your desires effectively, and the straight-up differences in how men and women approach sex. This was a thoroughly enjoyable conversation, so if you’re with a partner, I hope you listen together and maybe open up some dialogue!

Laurie Watson, Ph.D., MA, LMFT, LCMHC, Director of Awakenings, certified sex therapist, certified EFT therapist, certified addictions specialist from IICS, has thirty years of experience working with couples and individuals about love and sex. Laurie says, “I’ve never seen a couple who I didn’t feel hope for about their healing and happiness.”

Laurie is the host of the popular podcast, FOREPLAY RADIO, ranked in the top 10 on iTunes under Sexuality. Laurie authored her first book Wanting Sex Again—How to Rediscover Desire and Heal a Sexless Marriage in December 2012. 

She’s a popular blogger, with over 15 million reads between her WebMD blog and Psychology Today Online. Laurie also lectures physician residents, PAs, and PTs at Duke’s and UNC Chapel Hill’s medical schools on sexual function and dysfunction. 

She has been published or quoted in almost every nationally popular media resource including the New York Times, Buzzfeed, HuffPo, WebMD, Glamour, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Cosmopolitan, etc. A popular media figure, she has appeared on the Katie Couric Show and  Vogue Weddings and is regularly on radio and television in Raleigh and Greensboro.

Director/owner of Awakenings, Counseling for Couples and Sexuality, Laurie supervises 11 clinicians in both Raleigh and Greensboro. 

Connect with Laurie

-Website: https://lauriewatson.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/LaurieWatson.CouplesTherapy/

-Podcast: Foreplay Radio: https://www.foreplayrst.com/


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Men’s Work Session – The Weight Of A Parent’s Depression

We all know intellectually that more than genetics gets passed down. Behaviors, opinions, and traumas can get transferred too. How it manifests, though, can be very different for every individual.

In this anonymous men’s work session, my guest and I work with the weight of a parent’s past trauma. For the parent, it was depression and rejection of her partner’s affection, but for my guest, it’s become something different. Listen in.

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Tanner Guzy – Style, Masculinity, And The Appearance Of Power

Do clothes make the man? Well, yes and no. It’s a little more complicated than that. This is a deep-dive into some of the nuances of masculine aesthetics. Sit down with Tanner Guzy and I as we discuss how the way you dress affects your self-perception and how men have used clothing throughout history. We also get into some practical places to start dressing better!

Tanner Guzy is a men’s style coach, and the host and founder of Masculine-Style.com  He is also the author of The Appearance of Power, How Masculinity is Expressed Through Aesthetics, an analysis of the intersection of clothing, aesthetics, and masculinity, and how men throughout time and across the world have used their appearance to signal virtues like courage, strength, mastery, and honor.

Connect with Tanner

-Website: https://masculine-style.com/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/tannerguzy

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tannerguzy/

-Book: The Appearance of Power: https://masculine-style.com/book-3/

 


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Experts On Relationships: Forgiveness, Fantasy, And Conflict

This week, I’m featuring some of the incredible work, insight, and knowledge of relationship experts I’ve had on. This is a great episode if you’re pressed for time, looking for a variety of answers, or just want a taste of what the ManTalks podcast has to offer. I hope you enjoy!

Over the last decade, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT has become one of today’s most trusted relationship teachers. Elizabeth is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Fellow of The American Association of Marriage & Family Therapy. She is the Head Therapist at Actually, where she is working to make relational wellness mainstream & accessible. Elizabeth is also the host of Hash it Out on Good Risings where she offers advice to everyday relational conundrums. She is frequently asked to talk about relationships with media outlets like Mind Body Green and The Huffington Post and has been featured on numerous podcasts. 

Relationship expert and sought-after coach Jayson Gaddis is the founder of The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping people work out their differences and have fulfilling long-term partnerships. Jayson is considered a world leader in love, conflict resolution, and interpersonal relationships. He’s the host of an extremely successful podcast with almost 3 million downloads (and over 250 episodes) and has interviewed the very best in the world including Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Gabor Mate, Dr. Stan Tatkin, Dr. John Demartini, The Gottmans, Pat Ogden, and Bessel VanDerKolk.

Dr. Justin Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 50 academic works to date, including a textbook titled The Psychology of Human Sexuality (now in its second edition) that is used in college classrooms around the world.

Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationship as a spiritual path. She lives with her husband, Ben, on xʷənen̕əč, the unceded land of the Hul’q’umi’num’ and WSÁNEĆ peoples, now known as Salt Spring Island, BC.


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Not Doing This In Your Relationship? Start Now

I got inspired by a question from a buddy of mine: what is one of the greatest lessons we as men need to learn in the context of relationships? It’s not an easy thing to do by any stretch, but I think it’s deeply important, deeply valuable, and it also saves you a ton of time and uncertainty. Obviously won’t spoil it here! So listen in.


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Danielle LaPorte – Leading With Love

Forgiveness doesn’t often come easy, but it’s a big part of being human. And self-forgiveness? This is something many, many men come to me with questions about. Danielle is an old friend and I’m deeply grateful to have sat down with her on this topic. We also cover what it looks like to actually deal with our fears—to compassionately work with them and other patterns that may hold us back. 

Danielle LaPorte is a member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100 a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” 

The former director of a future studies think tank in Washington, DC, where she managed a team creating global scenarios. She now speaks about the intelligence of the heart. 

Her most recent book, How To Be Loving…when your heart is breaking open and the world is waking up, is also an Audiobook + ebook, with a companion deck and journal. Danielle is also the author of The Fire Starter Sessions, The Desire Map, White Hot Truth, and producer of dozens of meditation kits and online programs for spiritual support.

Danielle is the creator of the Heart Centered Membership and the Heart Centered Leadership Program with 400+ leaders in 30 countries hosting conversation circles, retreats, and workshops in all kinds of communities and businesses.

Her podcast, With Love, Danielle, often ranks in iTunes’ top 10 for wellness. Most of her offerings—from the Heart Centered Membership to her online classes—are on a pay what you choose basis. Named one of the Top 100 Websites for Women by Forbes, millions of people a month visit DanielleLaPorte.com.

Marianne Williamson refers to Danielle “as a bright light.” V (formerly known as Eve Ensler) calls her “a force field of energy, wonder, humour, and love.” 

Her charities of choice are Ally Global Foundation, helping survivors of human trafficking to rebuild their lives (@allyglobal), Trees Sisters’ reforestation projects (@treesisters_official), and VDay, a movement to end violence against women and girls (vdayorg). 

She lives in Vancouver, BC.

Connect with Danielle

-Website: https://daniellelaporte.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/daniellelaporte/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/daniellelaporte

-New book; How To Be Loving: https://amzn.to/3Mgc9gU


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