What do you want from your life...
Modern men want to leave an impact beyond the lukewarm, "Here lies a good man."
You know what they mean when they say he was a 'good man' don't you?
They mean a man who lost his ability to dream and live a big, bold vision. They mean a man who took commands like, "Get your head out of the clouds," "Toughen up," and "Real men don't feel emotions," literally.
But in our initiation free society, with failing male role models, the boy hears only noise. He confuses healthy, strong masculinity with machismo.
So he changes his behavior. He starts doing what others tell him he should do rather than what he knows, deep down, that he must do.
He backs off his principles. He lets go of his dreams. Unbeknownst to him, he develops a code that does not serve him well. Subconsciously, he decides that he'll:
Never ask for help.
Stop feeling any emotion (unless it's anger).
But in this adopting this ethos he makes a tradeoff. One he won't understand the costs of until many years later. After he's far down the well-worn path of most modern men.
After he's blunted his true talents. After he's made so many 'practical' choices. After he's lost much of his life energy. After his wild and willful masculinity has eroded.
After he's forgotten who he REALLY is.
In the name of 'success' our men have given up on the true success of fulfillment and self-awareness.
We have a society of men with the wrong definition of success.
Our ideas and ideals devastate us because of how wrong they are. Let me ask you this: do you believe some version of any of these statements?
"Real men figure it out."
"Real men aren't a burden on anyone."
"Real men are successful."
"Real men sacrifice it all for their family."
"Real men bring home the bacon."
You know what? Men are often all these things, but tragically it's often at the expense of their own state of mind.
It's at the expense of health, relationships, and most of all at the expense of their own fulfillment.
Why? Because many men are stuck in their heads. Many of us can't break free from our own limitations and Bullshit. We're calculating a solution rather than living our truth.
We're looking for purpose in an outcome rather than deep down in our being.
And we've forgotten this sacred truth:
"The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift."
Men have lost the ability to combine our heads and our hearts. We kill what our instincts know to be true.
We kill it one small choice at a time. We kill it with addictions both petty and grand. We kill it by living someone else's life.
Meanwhile, our head continues to work. It runs simulations. It calculates. It churns probabilities. Until many of us can't even sleep at night.
At least you're a 'good man,' right?
But here's the crazy thing...
It doesn't have to be this way. If there's one thing I've learned, it's that when you put awakened (and awakening) men together you get magical results. When you let men speak their truth and challenge each other without judgement but with firm conviction, you get altering results.
Does a group of high-performing men stop caring about performance? Hell no. Men will always in large part define ourselves by what we get done. Do we stop providing? Hell no. If anything we start taking even more pride in that role.
But in this unique space we also see so much more. We see deep strength and a new level of brotherhood that most men never achieve in their adult lives.
This is the space we've created with The Alliance.