Time for Reflection and New Goals with Roger Nairn and Connor Beaton

Episode: 023

Roger and Connor talk on how to set and achieve goals effectively.

Roger and Connor catch up on their year with ManTalks and talk about why every man should do a
reflection on the year past. Connor recommends a couple of key questions the audience can ask
themselves to provide better insight on how their year went. Roger and Connor also talk about their goals
with ManTalks, as well as their personal goals for the New Year.
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Key Takeaways:
[0:35] For this episode, Roger and Connor will be reflecting on their year.
[2:15] Get rid of programs and phone apps that aren’t serving you.
[2:55] Why is reflection important?
[3:45] What is Connor’s process of reflection?
[9:15] Where do you thrive the most?
[10:05] Where have you struggled the most? Reflect on this so that you don’t fall into the same trap.
[12:25] High achievers carry a lot of guilt when they don’t accomplish their year-end goals.
[13:40] Roger plans to color more in 2016.
[14:20] Why do you have the goals that you have? Is it just for ego?
[16:00] Who are the people in your life that you’re thankful for?
[18:15] You don’t have to stop life just because you’re going into a new year.
[20:20] Connor has flexible goals.
[24:50] What can people look forward to from ManTalks in 2016?
[27:20] Feel free to email us guest recommendations.
[28:40] Roger recommends Think and Grow Rich to develop a healthy goal mindset.
[29:35] What will it cost you to achieve your goal and are you willing to pay the price?
[30:25] Be honest with yourself.
[31:00] What will your vision statement for 2016 be?
[32:45] Take the next week off to reflect on your year.

Mentioned In This Episode:
The School of Greatness by Lewis Howes
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Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

Music Credit:
J Parlange & Latenite Automatic ( –
“Where do I thrive and where do I struggle?”
“The transition into a new year, you don’t necessarily have to stop life and refresh everything.”
“What are you willing to sacrifice to accomplish your goals?”

My Trust Mantra for the perfect adventure

“Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”
Martin Luther King Jr
Ages ago, I was listening to a podcast that talked about the Huna principle that has become a mantra of mine.

“Everything is working out perfectly.”

These simple words have helped me stay on track and keep my head. When I’m feeling upset, stressed out or like things aren’t going the way they’re supposed to, I repeat this mantra in my head (or out loud) until I restore my trust.
Using this mantra helps in two ways. First, it reminds you that regardless of how bad a situation may seem, it is, in fact, the way things are supposed to be going, because if it weren’t it wouldn’t be happening. Once you can sink in and trust that this is true, a sense of calm washes over you, and the situation seems a lot less stressful.
The second is an element of the law of attraction. If you believe that your situation is wrong and not going the way it’s supposed to, “it sucks” or something along those lines, then you attract more negative things to you. The universe says: “Well, you think this is shit, so I’ll keep proving it to you.” Once you regain your trust, you will often find that miraculously, things just start going better for you. Once you relax and get back into a positive state of mind, you will attract more positivity towards you!
In the fall of 2013 I set out on a 3000 km cycling trip down the west coast from Whistler, BC to just outside San Diego, California. At first, this trip may not seem all that out there, a lot of other people have done the same and more challenging rides. But, I’ve never ridden a road bike, or done any long distance riding until about three weeks before leaving on this trip.
I did this trip solo and camped the whole way down the coast, carrying everything I needed with me. With food and all my gear, my rig weighed an average of over 100 lbs! If you’ve ever tried riding a 100 lb bike before, you’ll know it’s not an easy thing to do, especially up the hills, some of which are over 2000 vertical feet high.
My body and mind were pushed to near the breaking point quite a few times, especially at the beginning, where any journey is invariably the hardest.
Along the way, I encountered numerous events that forced me to simply trust that everything would work the way I intended and just keep moving.
Since I was going to be away for two months, I decided to sublet my room while I was gone. After showing it to a number of different people with no success, I tried one final attempt to find someone the morning I was scheduled to leave on my adventure. She seemed like a good fit, but couldn’t commit on the spot, so I had to leave without securing someone to cover my $1100 a month rent while I was gone.
I didn’t have the budget to cover the adventure without subletting the room, and that was so scary, but I just had to trust that it would work out. I’ll admit, it was rather stressful at first, but once I was a couple of hours in and almost reached Squamish I got a call from her saying that she wanted to take it!
I could have postponed or cancelled the trip, but I chose to trust and continue, and the universe did its part and helped get it all worked out.
Trust is not just important for going on adventures and accomplishing huge goals. Having a better sense of trust can help immensely with stress, anxiety, and fear as well. For all of these states are essentially a lack of trust that things will go the way you desire.
By strengthening your trust, you will not only make your journey through life more enjoyable, you will also end up attracting more of what you want into your life and reach your goals that much faster!
I have definitely strengthened my trust a lot through my many adventures, however this is not the only way to do it. Other practices such as the use of mantras, like the one I mentioned earlier, “everything is working out perfectly,” meditation… etc helps a lot too.
In the end, having trust when things are going well is easy. It’s only being able to be positive and have trust in the face of fear and uncertainty that will help you thrive and have the life you truly desire. And the best way to make that happen is to put yourself in situations that force you to trust and have faith that things will work out perfectly.
So get out there and go on your own adventure!

Dave Weale“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked what I wanted to be wen I grew up. I wrote down “happy.” They told me I didn’t understand the assignment. I told them they didn’t understand life.” – John Lennon

That is the foundation of Dave Weale’s beliefs and what he teaches all of his clients. Dave is a happiness coach. His clients end up being able to free up their time so they are able to focus on pursuing their passions and truly live a life they love!

He does this by teaching about mindfulness and meditation and works with people to help improve their Health, Wealth, Love and Trust. He helps people reach peak health, make more money, create more love in their lives, and trust that we are all in this together and that everything is working out perfectly!

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