Spiritual Growth by Detoxing From Judgment | Gabby Bernstein

Your judgments are a block to spiritual growth.

On this episode of the podcast, Connor goes into depth with Gabby Bernstein about her new book Judgment Detox. This new volume is a powerful step-by-step guide to overcoming the state of judgment, which holds us in its grip and stops us from making any progress on our path to spiritual growth.

Connor and Gabby cover a lot on this episode of the podcast, including how judgment shows up, why it shows up, how it stops us, its impact on our life.
Then Gabby walks the listener through six steps on how to observe and work through our own judgment, to then come out the other side stronger, and more stable as a result. In this article, we’ll cover the major points in case you just want the shortened version, but to get the full effect, please listen by clicking play below or downloading the podcast on iTunes or Stitcher.

Finding Bottom to Reach the Top

Imagine being at the top of your world. You’re the 25-year-old owner of a booming NYC public relations firm. Since you specialize in PR for all top nightclubs and bars in the city, you have consistent access to the best parties and events the city has to offer. Rather than waiting in line, you barely break stride at the doorway to say hello to your favorite bouncers as you waltz in to let loose for another night.
Then imagine waking up in your studio apartment one morning after another endless party and realizing you were addicted to the party drugs you once loved.
This was Gabby’s experience. She hit rock bottom at age 25, but as with most addicts, the drugs were a second order problem. She was first addicted to achieving social status and stoking her own ego. These were subconsciously conceived methods of avoiding her internal turmoil.
That morning when she woke up with the mother of all hangovers, Gabby realized she had a choice — she could continue down the same path, which would lead to more disconnection, struggle, and potentially even her death. Or, she could take a different path, the difficult but rewarding path of true growth.
Gabby has since taken a deep and meaningful spiritual journey, but not only that, she has turned her efforts to helping others. After writing several New York Times bestselling books, she’s back with a new book outlining the role of judgment and its implications for spiritual growth.

The Role of Judgment in Hindering Spiritual Growth

Judgment is the stop gap that prevents people from leaning into the work they want to do or having happiness. Gabby even goes so far as to posit that judgment is the root cause of the divisive times we live in, and says we’re required to heal the judgmntal patterns internally, only then will it begin to dissolve barriers and bring people together.
Judgment is the number one reason we feel blocked from people and a deeper connection to others, creatively, professionally, financially. Judgment is an addiction and resembles other addictive  behaviors. When we begin to clean up our judgmental behavior, we create space for healing and our relationships can finally align and connect.
In turn, we attract the life we want.
Gabby says that judgment is a, “disowned part of our shadow.”  It reflects back what we don’t want to feel about ourselves. We use it to feel better than others, but of course it has the opposite affect. Where you find judgment, you will find the perfect entrance to the personal work that you must do now.

The Judgment Detox

Gabby’s new book is a six step process designed to help the reader stop believing in his/her judgments. Of course, we’ll never rid ourselves of judgment entirely, but we can stop believing the false information our judgments are sending us.
Below, we’ll go through the six step plan as written in Gabby’s new book and discussed in the podcast:

Step 1: Witness Your Judgment Without Judgment

  • Take inventory by asking four questions:
    • What/who am I judging?
    • How does it make me feel?
    • Why do I feel justified in this judgment?
    • Is there an experience from my past that is triggering this judgment?
  • Note: It’s important to not judge your judgments. This perpetuates the problem and creates a judgment cycle.

Step 2: Honor the Wounds

  • Recognize and honor the fact that beneath every judgment is a deep rooted wound (the Shadow)
  • Use the Emotional Freedom Technique, which is like psychoanalysis and acupuncture combined where you heal the root cause and energy that lives beneath the judgment

Step 3: Put Love on the Altar

  • Become conscious of the fact that we are prioritize judgment and give it a pedestal that defines our experience.
  • In this step we change our intention to put love on the alter/pedestal so we experience life in a more strengthening way
  • It feels weakening to be walking around with the negative story and the judgment we carry of others. Through prayer/intention you begin to see things through the lens of love rather than fear
  • Whatever your avenue of faith and belief is, surrender to it and lean in to it as it allows you to rewire your brain in a more positive manner

Step 4: See for the First Time

  • Practicing seeing through the lens of compassion, seeing people with the eyes of what is working, thriving rather than the past story
  • Take the circumstances you judged just yesterday for example, and in this case decide to focus on what is working in that scenario. Find the good and identify it – what did you learn? What behavior did you walk away with?
  • Ask yourself how do I feel? Why do I feel this way? Physically, emotionally, energetically? Do you feel weak, strong, positive, negative?
  • This section highlights the cost you’re paying for your judgments

Step 5: Cut the Cords

  • There are 6 Meditation practices in this section to go through a mental cleansing. When we judge, there is an invisible energy cord that connects you to the person you are judging. You can use meditation to cut the cord.
  • What becomes possible by cutting the cords: great healing and letting go of the past stories. You get to create new possibilities and resolutions.
  • The miracle of cutting the cords is that all that’s left is love

Step 6: Bring your Shadows to the Light

  • This step is designed to forgive and let go of the past story that we carry
  • The beauty of forgiveness is not something you have to do, but something you have to be ready for.

How Long Does This Take?

Gabby recommends going through The Judgment Detox in 6 weeks. But, she recognizes that some will want to go faster or slower. The point is to continue practicing in order to remove our belief in judgment.
After you’ve finished the book the first time you can come back and use the steps interchangeably. The book is designed with the intention of freedom, there is no rigid/fixed structure – it’s designed in a way to encourage the reader to be free from judgment in a way that works, inspires and empowers the reader.

You Can View the Episode on YouTube

 Guest Bio — Gabby Bernstein

Gabrielle Bernstein is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Universe Has Your Back, and has written five additional bestsellers. She was featured on Oprah’s SuperSoul Sunday as a “next-generation thought leader,” and The New York Times named her “a new role model.” She appears regularly as an expert on The Dr. Oz Show and co-hosted the Guinness World Record largest guided meditation with Deepak Chopra.
Gabby is the creator of the Miracle Membership, a first-of-its-kind monthly subscription that helps people stay committed to their spiritual practices. Her flagship course, Spirit Junkie Masterclass, empowers people to awaken their confidence and live their purpose.
Gabrielle has been on an international speaking circuit since 2004. She has presented lectures at Google, TEDxWomen, Oprah’s SuperSoul Sessions, The Chopra Center, The Omega Institute, L’Oréal, Philosophy and The Huffington Post, among many other notable organizations.
Gabrielle is a certified Kundalini yoga and meditation teacher. She is also trained in the Emotional Freedom Technique and she’s a student of Transcendental Meditation, as taught by the David Lynch Foundation.
YouTube chose Gabrielle as one of its 16 YouTube Next Video Bloggers. Mashable included her in its list of 11 Must-Follow Twitter Accounts for Inspiration. Forbes called her one of the 20 Best-Branded Women.
Gabrielle is a regular guest on The Dr. Oz Show and has contributed to or been featured in media outlets such as SuperSoul Sunday, Today, CNN, Home & Family, Fox & Friends, PBS, Kathie Lee and Hoda, Access Hollywood, OWN’s Help Desk, The New York Times Sunday Styles section, Teen Vogue, ELLE, InStyle, Marie Claire, Health, SELF, Women’s Health, Glamour, The Sunday Times UK, People, The Wall Street Journal, The Thrive Global podcast, Lewis Howes’ School of Greatness, Bulletproof Radio and many more. Gabrielle has also been on the covers of Experience Life and Self-Made magazines; the latter named her one of the top 50 women in business.
Gabrielle is on the steering committee for Philosophy’s Hope and Grace Initiative and a Lululemon Global Yoga Ambassador.
In January 2018 Gabrielle launches her sixth book, Judgment Detox.

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