Talking points: AI, porn, relationships, conflict

Yowza. So grateful for Matthia’s thoughtful and nuanced ideas on everything from artificial intelligence to therapy-speak to anger and approaching relationships. We go from the esoteric to the practical and back again, so listen in team. This is a great one to share with a partner.

(00:00:00) – Intro, Matthia’s adventures with AI, and how it’s already shifting culture
(00:16:42) – When AI does things TOO well
(00:20:32 ) – How AI will impact intimate relationships and the porn industry
(00:30:37) – What do AI and AI porn mean for the next generation, and how they’ll be impacted
(00:35:17) – How technology always has unintended consequences
(00:43:05) – Why does everyone seem like a narcissist according to online commentary?
(00:50:40) – On villain/powerlessness dynamics, and mature anger, and how trauma therapy is like a software update
(00:58:20) – How couples can end cycling or repeat conflicts
(01:05:55) – Mathia’s non-negotiables for lasting intimacy and deep relationship

Matthias is a psychotherapist and the CEO and co-founder of the Trauma Institute with Dr. Frank Anderson, providing clinical training for psychotherapists and education for the general public on healing from trauma. He is widely recognized for his unique approach to making mental health knowledge and skills accessible to the wider public. Through platforms like Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, and his top-ranking Spotify podcast, Matthias delivers psychoeducational content to a following of over 3 million people. Barker’s innovative blend of engaging content and relevant mental health advice has fostered a vibrant online community centered on healing, personal growth, and moving toward what’s meaningful despite hardship.

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