Connor Beaton

Talking points: men, psychology, culture

Roy Baumeister is a mighty pillar in the world of psychology, with groundbreaking work on willpower, self-control, negativity bias, and much more. I had the honor of chatting with him about all of these things in the context of men. How do we develop robust self-esteem? Is it work breaking free of isolation? Are there unique social pressures? This is chock full, team.

(00:00:00) – On how men need to prove themselves, and the different social pressures between men and women

(00:07:59) – Roy on risk-taking in men and women

(00:14:01) – Roy’s most cited work, why we fixate more on the bad things, and men’s self-destructive behavior

(00:27:48) – Strategies you can use to replace unhealthy coping mechanisms

(00:34:09) – How important is it for men to have robust and diverse social circles?

(00:45:10) – What is “ego depletion”?

(00:52:21) – The effect of porn on self-control, and wisdom for men struggling with self-esteem

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Talking points: attachment, genetics, psychology

Attachment as a framework for working on and healing your relationships is powerful stuff. But it’s also complex. I wanted to nerd out a bit this week with all of you over this fascinating study on attachment, genetics, and environment—with a PSA at the end. 

Dig in and let me know what you think!

You can find the abstract of the study and request a full PDF here: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/385437792_Genetic_and_environmental_contributions_to_adult_attachment_styles_Evidence_from_the_Minnesota_Twin_Registry

(00:00:00) – Intro

(00:04:28) – Why it’s interesting and a potential game changer, and why heritability doesn’t mean it’s game over

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Pick up my book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Talking points: culture, masculinity, the shadow

This was one of those wide-ranging convos that made me lose track of time. David and I cover a ton in this as you’ll see from the timestamps, with some great info on “core energetics”, personality types, and more. Dig in.

(00:00:00) – How David approached interviewing such a polarizing figure, and do all men have such a rigid mask?

(00:09:04) – How do you support men in a way that allows them to actually open up? 

(00:15:40) – Is it all just an act, and killing your shadow versus integrating  

(00:22:35) – What is core energetics and the five personality “patterns”?

(00:31:10) – Which pattern best describes American culture, and what do you think we need to do?

(00:37:14) – Do we HAVE to play the polarization game to get anywhere?

(00:44:54) – What David would say to men who are hiding opinions that might get them in trouble

(00:58:01) – What is the “lower self”?

(01:07:22) – Advice for men who actively resist their own emotions

David Sutcliffe is a Somatic Therapist, a Certified Core Energetics Practitioner with over 15 years experience. He has a private practice out of Austin, Texas, and holds workshops across the United States and Canada. He is also a trained hypnotherapist, a mindset expert, and has extensive experience with meditation, yoga, shamanism, physical fitness, nutrition, and wellness. A former actor, he is well known for his roles in the popular TV series Gilmore Girls and Private Practice, and movies Under The Tuscan Sun and Happy Endings.

Connect with David

-Website: https://www.davidsutcliffe.com

-YouTube: https://bit.ly/3ZJ1KD4

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/davidsutcliffe33/

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Pick up my book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

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Talking points: relationships, masculinity, psychology, culture

I touched on this topic in a previous episode and hoo boy, the comments. So let’s talk about it, because there are a lot of historical, psychological, and mythic examples to look at. What’s more, there are ways of working on this if it rings true.

(00:00:00) – What I mean by being afraid of women, and theories from evolutionary psychology

(00:06:41) – The perspective of analytical psychology, and the “anima and animus”

(00:15:29) – Lastly, the perspective of existential psychology, and how a man creates identity

(00:19:22) – So what do you do with this info?

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Pick up my book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Heard about attachment but don’t know where to start? Try the FREE Ultimate Guide To Attachment

Check out some other free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance. 

Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools and training they’re looking for. And don’t forget to subscribe on Apple Podcasts | Google Podcasts | Spotify

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