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Dr. Arthur P. Ciaramicoli is a licensed clinical psychologist who has been treating his clients for more than 35 years. He is the Chief medical Officer of Soundmindz.org and has lectured at Harvard Health Services. Arthur is the author of several books including The Stress Solution and The Power of Empathy, which both Arthur and Connor discuss on today’s show. Discover the need for empathy in your daily life and learn how to apply it in today’s episode.

 

Key Takeaways:

[3:45] What was a defining moment for Arthur?

[7:15] Empathy slows down the process during intense moments or conversations.

[10:15] 50% of people wake up during the middle of the night due to stress.

[10:40] Stress is produced often by misconceptions. You can use empathy to calm the emotional brain.

[13:15] What are some of the causes of stress?

[16:15] How can we combat stress?

[17:00] The most successful people in life have a wide emphatic range.

[18:55] Remember, empathy is different than sympathy.

[21:40] Take the time to see beyond the service. Use empathy to understand the other person’s perspective.

[25:25] When we are stressed, we’re far less likely to eat well.

[27:45] Often times what holds us back are our limiting beliefs and our past.

[29:15] Good friends give us what we need, not what we want.

[30:25] How do they rewrite their story?

[32:25] A lot of us suffer from performance addiction. We believe achieving a certain status will gain love and respect.

[34:00] What really sustains us is who we are, not what we achieve.

[36:00] People who give are much healthier than takers.

[37:25] What kind of legacy would Arthur like to leave behind?

[38:55] The hatred that’s in the world is incredibly disturbing to Arthur.

[39:35] Arthur talks about someone he works with regularly.

[42:20] What’s the one experience Arthur recommends anyone to do?

[43:50] What is the most underrated trait for modern day success?

[45:40] What question should we ask to be more emphatic towards others?

[46:15] What book would Arthur take if he was stranded on an island? One of Dalai Lama’s books.

[46:25] Who is the most influential person of all time? Jesus.

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

www.mantalks.com/

www.balanceyoursuccess.com/

www.soundmindz.org

The Curse of the Capable by Arthur P. Ciaramicoli

The Stress Solution by Arthur P. Ciaramicoli

The Power of Empathy by Arthur P. Ciaramicoli

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Michael Bungay Stanier was banned from his high school graduation for “the balloon incident”, was sued by one of his Law School lecturers for defamation, and has held a number of jobs where he had little or no impact. Through his experiences, he founded Box of Crayons, a company that helps organizations do more great work. On today’s show, he discusses his latest book with Roger, The Coaching Habit and how you can say less, ask more, and change the way you lead others.

 

Key Takeaways:

[1:45] What was Michael’s defining moment?

[6:45] What is Michael up to these days?

[8:20] Michael talks about his latest book, The Coaching Habit.

[13:30] Slow down on giving advice, but stay curious for longer.

[17:00] If Michael could pick one type of person to read his book, it would be the busy manager.

[20:30] Did you know that boys are much more emotionally expressive than girls are in early childhood?

[22:00] There are seven essential questions you need to ask yourself. Michael explains further.

[25:40] Believe it or not, people do not learn when you give them really great advice.

[25:55] People really learn when they have a moment to reflect on what just happened.

[28:30] The Coaching Habit has been the #1 coaching book on Amazon since it launched 9 weeks ago.

[29:40] What legacy would Michael like to leave behind?

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

www.mantalks.com/

www.boxofcrayons.biz/

www.thecoachinghabit.com/

The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier

www.mankindproject.org/

 

Music Credit:

Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)

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Jason Connell is a speaker, former magician, and a writer on personal development. Jason discusses with Roger and Connor on today’s show about successfully moving through life transitions and accepting the new challenges that come from taking action. Jason also talks on the subject of manhood and some of the key things our everyday modern man struggles with in a society littered with social media.

 

Key Takeaways:

[1:35] What was Jason’s defining moment as a man?

[4:00] It’s hard to follow/discover a path you were meant to follow. Many people wake up to a 9-5 job they hate.

[5:40] Millennials are feeling much more disconnected with others.

[7:40] Jason talks about his career as a magician.

[9:25] You don’t have to follow the same path for the rest of your life.

[10:40] Men suffer from the ‘lack of money’ barrier.

[12:15] Jason is slowly winding down on his 8-year company, Ignited Leadership.

[15:20] We’re prone to stick with what we know – even if it makes us unhappy.

[17:20] Your own brain is often not enough. You need to take action.

[20:00] Transition is hard. So give yourself some slack.

[21:25] What does a strong support system look like to Jason?

[23:00] One piece of advice to modern men? Stop being so strong and break down.

[25:15] What kind of things do Millennials struggle with?

[28:35] Keep in mind you can fail and it’s no big deal.

[31:00] Want to change but not sure how? Get a coach or a psychologist.

[35:00] When you’re more authentic with yourself, you become more attractive to women.

[37:25] Sex, money, or status does not validate your manhood.

[38:30] What kind of legacy would Jason like to leave behind?

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

www.mantalks.com/

www.ignitedleadership.com

www.jasonconnell.co/

The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell

 

Music Credit:

Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)

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Frank Warren is the founder of PostSecret.com, where he publishes some of the secrets strangers have mailed to him on postcards. Frank has received over 500,000 postcards since November 2004. Some of these postcards are funny, shocking, littered with confessions, sexual desires, and more. Frank discusses why such a novel idea has turned viral and why people need a confessional outlet on today’s show.

 

Key Takeaways:

[2:25] What was Frank’s defining moment as a man?

[4:15] How did PostSecret get started?

[7:45] Frank has given his real home address for people to send postcards to.

[8:10] What is the magic that happens when someone reveals a secret to Frank?

[10:50] What men decide to reveal and conceal defines them every day.

[11:45] Frank reads some anonymous secrets.

[15:45] Despite so much technology that helps us to connect, there’s still a lot of loneliness and isolation.

[16:05] Are we posting too much on social media?

[19:00] Frank used to work on a suicide prevention hotline. How does he deal with all the heaviness?

[21:25] Roger used to live at a fraternity house where he couldn’t show his true emotional struggles.

[26:25] Did you know you could mail potatoes if it has an address on it?

[26:40] Frank talks of his least favorite/most haunting postcards.

[29:15] What’s next for Frank?

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

www.mantalks.com/

www.postsecret.com/

[email protected]

Frank on TED

 

Mail Frank:

13345 Copper Ridge Rd

Germantown, Maryland, 20874

 

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Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)

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Chris Guillebeau is the New York Times bestselling author of The $100 Startup, The Happiness of Pursuit, and other books. On today’s show, Chris discuses how you can find your dream job and do work you were meant to do. You can learn more by listening to this podcast and by checking out Chris’s book on the subject entitled, Born for This. At the end of the show, Roger mentions that if you’re feeling alone in your journey, don’t be! Chris has a huge community of people searching for their dream as well, so feel free to visit Chris’s website to find out more.

 

Key Takeaways:

[0:45] ManTalks has officially launched in Toronto and LA!

[3:00] Please keep spreading the word about ManTalks.

[5:10] What was Chris’s defining moment as a man?

[7:10] Why did Chris write The $100 Startup and Born for This?

[8:45] Are you dissatisfied with the traditional path? Then Chris’s book is for you.

[9:55] How can you hack the job of your dreams?

[10:25] If you’re working for a company, you should think about yourself as leasing your talents to that organization. 

[11:15] Chris explains the difference between hard skills vs. soft skills.

[12:10] Life’s too short to hate the work you’re doing.

[12:20] What are some of the signs that someone is in the wrong job/career/thing?

[12:45] You don’t need to know your life purpose at age 20. Most people don’t even know that at age 30. 

[13:15] How do you know if you’ve found your dream job? Well, if you had to ask…

[14:50] How do you move closer to what your purpose is and make money?

[18:25] Chris dives a little bit into his background.

[19:45] We gain confidence through mistakes and trying different things.

[20:55] What’s the most popular question Chris gets asked at these events?

[22:45] Chris dives a little deeper into what he means by ‘side hustle’.

[24:20] What kind of legacy does Chris wish to leave behind?

[25:10] Do you think you’re alone in this? Go to Chris’s website.

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

www.mantalks.com/

www.chrisguillebeau.com/

The $100 Startup by Chris Guillebeau

Born for This by Chris Guillebeau

 

Music Credit:

Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)

 

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Sam Fankuchen is the founder of Golden, a company that makes it easy to volunteer as well as helps non-profits manage their volunteers. Golden now has an app you can download directly to your phone where you can work for a non-profit that is aligned with your mission and purpose. Sam says that 25% of Americans volunteer every year, but the impact could be much greater if there was an easier way to manage the gap between non-profits and volunteers. Find out more about Sam’s story in today’s episode. 

 

Key Takeaways:

[0:30] Connor and Roger welcome Sam on to the show, the founder of Golden.

[0:35] What is Golden? An app that helps to make volunteering effortless.

[2:10] Why is Golden so important? We all want to give back.

[2:50] What was a defining moment for Sam?

[5:10] Sam explains what Golden is.

[6:25] Why would a non-profit need this?

[6:45] Staffing is the most costly expense for a non-profit.

[8:05] There’s only a few core things that help drive our happiness. Volunteering is in that list.

[9:15] Why did Sam want to help the volunteering space?

[10:55] Volunteering is surprisingly complicated.

[12:30] 24-25% of Americans volunteer every year.

[13:25] There are tremendous benefits to volunteering.

[15:00] How can someone volunteer most effectively?

[18:00] What do volunteer coordinators need to do to make sure their volunteers feel valued?

[21:40] What’s one piece of advice Sam would give to companies who want to be more active in the community?

[24:45] What does Sam see in the future for non-profits and charities?

[25:50] Sam shares a case study.

[29:00] Where does Sam see Golden being in the next five years and how can people help?

[32:00] What kind of legacy would Sam like to leave behind?

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

www.mantalks.com/

www.goldenvolunteer.com/

 

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Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)

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Greg McKeown is the author of Essentialism and the CEO of THIS Inc., a leadership and strategy design agency located in Silicon Valley. Greg tells the audience that if you want to break through to the next level and contribute more to your life, you must go big on fewer things. If you say yes to everything, you will simply stretch yourself too thin and exhaust yourself. 

 

Key Takeaways:

[2:55] Don’t forget ManTalks is hosting another event!

[4:25] What was Greg’s defining moment?

[7:00] Our failures lead to some of our biggest lessons.

[8:10] The only time we really learn is when we have expectation failure.

[9:05] True wealth is the ability to be present at any given moment.

[9:20] Don’t let a defining moment in your life pass you by.

[10:00] Are you just too busy living to think about life?

[10:30] Greg believes there’s only two kinds of people in this world – the people who are lost and the people who know they’re lost.

[10:50] To be in the second category requires humility, self-awareness, and courage.

[11:45] Don’t run on auto pilot.

[17:15] The first part of the book goes into the mindset of an essentialist.

[20:15] How can we accomplish more things that are important to us?

[21:05] An essentialist explores their options.

[21:55] An essentialist is very aware they have the ability to choose.

[26:45] Who really spends years working on a single masterpiece project?

[31:15] Our society is very achievement-based and we’ve been rewired to accomplish it all.

[32:00] What’s possible when you start practicing the principles of essentialism?

[34:05] If you say yes to everything, you cannot contribute to your highest ability.

[34:25] If you try to do it all, you’ll just do it averagely well.

[35:45] When given the choice, people will choose fewer things done better.

[38:50] What legacy would Greg like to leave behind in the world?

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

www.vancitybuzz.com/

www.mantalks.com/

www.gregmckeown.com/

Essentialism by Greg McKeown

 

Music Credit:

Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)

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Jonathan Becker founded Thrive Digital, a company dedicated in user acquisition, lead generation, and more. Jonathan is a serial entrepreneur and has a lot of advice to share for others who are looking to break out and thrive on their own. One piece of advice Jonathan gives to other aspiring entrepreneurs is to quit while you’re ahead and use your newly learned skills to build something even better.

 

Key Takeaways:

[2:50] What was Jonathan’s defining moment?

[4:45] What does Jonathan currently do?

[6:45] Jonathan offers his best online marketing tip for someone who is trying to break into the marketing industry.

[11:30] SEO is much more difficult today than it was a couple of years ago.

[12:25] Don’t invest massive amounts of money on an unproven idea just yet.

[12:45] Good businesses are doing something exceptional.

[13:45] Jonathan talks about the online porker company he tried to start.

[16:25] Jonathan couldn’t tell his parents about what he was doing.

[19:10] Don’t be afraid to quit while you’re ahead.

[22:50] Jonathan has always wanted to be in business.

[23:40] Thrive Digital is the fourth/fifth company Jonathan has started.

[27:15] What’s the dark side of entrepreneurship?

[30:00] Jonathan loves Uber because they’re disrupting the industry.

[34:25] How can you add value to your team and employees?

[38:40] What does success look like on both an entrepreneurial and personal standpoint?

[40:45] What legacy does Jonathan want to leave?

[41:25] What’s Jonathan most excited about?

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

www.vancitybuzz.com/

www.mantalks.com/

www.thrivedigital.co/

www.twitter.com/jzbecker

www.linkedin.com/in/jonathanzbecker

 

Music Credit:

Parlange & Latenite Automatic (www.jesusparlange.com – www.lateniteautomatic.com)

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Shea Emry is a former Canadian football player who played eight seasons in the CFL. When Shea experienced a serious concussion back in 2011, he struggled with depression and was left feeling unsure about who he was outside of being a pro-athlete. He has since taken the journey to rediscover who he is as a person and is a huge advocate on redefining masculinity. His mission is to break down social stereotypes on the definition of hyper-masculinity and to help support and guide young male youth.

 

Key Takeaways:

[0:55] ManTalks is moving to Toronto!

[4:15] What was Shea’s defining moment?

[5:50] Shea had an incredibly bad concussion in 2011 and has battled back and forth between retirement, ever since.

[6:50] It was hard for Shea to walk away from sports because he identified so strongly as an athlete.

[7:30] What was it like to be a pro-athlete?

[10:25] How did Shea get into pro sports?

[12:15] Shea talks about his concussion and how he recovered from it.

[19:10] How can parents, spouse, or friends help support someone suffering from a concussion?

[21:30] Are you currently having an identity crisis? You’ll want to listen in to hear how to overcome it.

[22:45] It gets easier with time. You will find yourself again.

[23:00] What’s Shea’s purpose? To challenge hyper-masculine stereotypes.

[23:15] What does hyper-masculinity mean to Shea?

[25:35] Shea briefly talks on the three organizations he’s currently a part of and what they stand for.

[32:50] Shea wants male youth to feel comfortable with expressing themselves.

[33:45] How does Shea support the women in his life?

[34:35] There needs to be a communicative environment in order to lend a hand and support the women in a man’s life.

[35:00] Shea supports his wife by putting his phone down and listening to what she is saying.

[35:45] One of the most masculine things we can do is just be present.

[38:40] What legacy would Shea like to leave behind?

[41:35] Save the date! April 18th ManTalks will be live from Toronto.

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

http://www.vancitybuzz.com/

https://mantalks.com/

http://tedxtalks.ted.com/video/An-Adventure-Within-How-to-Beco

https://twitter.com/sheaemry

http://wellmen.org/

 

Music Credit:

Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)

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Oren Klaff has raised over $400 million of investor capital from high net-worth individuals and financial institutions. He is also the author of Pitch Anything, and he teaches others on how they can get the competitive edge in any negotiation scenario. Oren talks about how you can frame a negotiation to your advantage and how to get a buyer’s interest in 150 words or less.

 

Key Takeaways:

[2:20] What was Oren’s defining moment as a man?

[3:30] How did Oren discover that monogamy was what he wanted?

[5:05] What does Oren do?

[6:20] What’s Oren’s book, Pitch Anything, about?

[7:40] The strength of your status and quality of your presentation = the amount of attention you get.

[8:30] Nobody is going to listen to you for 3 hours. People are busy.

[8:50] Pitch Anything is about how to raise your status so people will pay attention to you.

[11:00] The human mind is built to protect you in social situations.

[11:35] It’s natural to act nice in high-risk situations to lower tensions, but it hurts you in negotiations.

[13:00] It can only go two ways. Either you’re superior or the buyer is superior in terms of status.

[13:15] Most buyers assume they’re superior due to them holding the money.

[13:40] Reframe the meeting so that the buyer has to earn your attention.

[15:25] Trying to get a raise at your job? Listen to Oren’s advice here.

[17:40] How do you sell the story?

[20:55] NPR knows how to tell a story, Fox News doesn’t.

[24:10] Oren shares two of his 150 word pitches.

[29:35] Look out for Oren’s second book coming out soon.

[31:45] What legacy would Oren like to leave behind?

 

Quotes:

“Your strength of your status and quality of your presentation = the amount of attention you get.”

“The buyer is the commodity, not you. Money is the commodity, not you. The buyer has to earn your attention.”

“If you do something of value that will stand the sands of time, that’s a good legacy.”

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

http://www.vancitybuzz.com/

https://mantalks.com/

http://pitchanything.com/

http://pitchanything.com/mantalks

Pitch Anything by Oren Klaff

 

Music Credit:

Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)

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Stephen Mansfield is a bestselling author and a leadership coach. Stephen has written a number of books including The Faith of George W. Bush, Killing Jesus, and Mansfield’s Book Of Manly Men; which has inspired men’s events worldwide. He is currently working on a new book to help accompany Mansfield’s Book Of Manly Men titled Building Your Band of Brothers, and sheds some light on how men can build better relationships with other men.

 

Key Takeaways:

[1:40] Thank you Vancity Buzz for being a sponsor!

[2:15] What was a defining moment for Stephen.

[5:10] What is manhood?

[7:15] What kind of values should a man look for?

[7:55] Take responsibility for your actions.

[9:25] Men in the Western world are mostly walking alone.

[12:20] How can men become more vulnerable amongst each other?

[14:55] Stephen shares a story on how his band of brothers has helped him.

[18:15] How can you build accountability and responsibility within a group?

[23:15] What kind of guys should you surround yourself with?

[26:40] Should you have boundaries with your band of brothers?

[29:10] What other virtues are important aside from responsibility?

[32:15] Stephen talks about his mentors and key influences in his life.

[34:45] Stephen tells us about his new book, Building Your Band of Brothers.

[35:45] Military men often do not have a support system due to their constant traveling.

[39:05] What kind of challenges or pitfalls do men face?

[42:45] What kind of legacy would Stephen like to leave behind?

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

http://www.vancitybuzz.com/

Mansfield’s Book of Manly Men by Stephen Mansfield

Building Your Band of Brothers by Stephen Mansfield

http://stephenmansfield.tv/

 

Music Credit:

Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)

https://twitter.com/MansfieldWrites

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Chris Bailey has conducted countless productivity experiments on himself and has interviewed several successful CEOs and business professionals on the subject of productivity. He has condensed everything he has learned into a 300 page book titled The Productivity Project. Listen to this interview to find out what productivity is -really- about and how you can use it to your full potential.

 

Key Takeaways:

[2:03] Thank you Vancity Buzz for sponsoring the podcast!

[4:03] What was Chris’s defining moment?

[5:38] Who is Chris?

[6:58] Why is Chris interested in productivity?

[8:18] How did Chris find the courage to start The Productivity Project?

[9:23] Follow your passion now. The time is now.

[10:58] Measuring and defining productivity was difficult for Chris.

[12:23] Productivity isn’t about how much we produce; it’s about how much we accomplish.

[13:18] Productivity is a combination of balancing time, attention, and energy.

[14:03] Has Chris met the most productive person in the world yet?

[14:58] The most productive people, ironically, teach meditation and mindfulness.

[18:58] Being in a flow state of mind is a combination of productivity and energy.

[19:33] Work on one thing at one time.

[22:58] How can people start being productive?

[28:33] What does Chris mean by ‘striving for imperfection’?

[31:13] What does success look like to Chris?

[35:03] How can you get yourself back on track when you stop becoming productive?

[39:58] What’s the difference between men vs. woman on productivity?

[43:13] What is Chris most excited about these days?

[44:13] What kind of legacy would Chris like to leave behind?

 

Mentioned in This Episode:

The Productivity Project by Chris Bailey

http://alifeofproductivity.com/

Getting Things Done with David Allen

I Know How She Does It by Laura Vanderkam

 

Music Credit:

Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com– lateniteautomatic.com)

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