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Talking points: maturity, parenthood

I get asked this question a lot, so here’s an honest, off-the-cuff response. I get why a lot of people choose not to, but I think there are also some powerful reasons in the other direction. Listen in.

02:17 – Bringing children into a troubled world
07:09 – The importance of the human spirit
14:15 – How parenting matures you
20:11 – There are beautiful moments in parenting

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Talking points: addiction, sex, porn, narcissism, relationships, therapy

I’ve yet to meet a man who hasn’t struggled at some point in his life with porn addiction. I was one of them. But is sex addiction any different, and is it more or less complex? I sat down with Dr. Doug Weiss, himself a recovered sex addict (37 years and counting!) to get some insight.

This is an ep to listen to if you’re looking for more insight on a pervasive problem for many, many people. One that can heavily impact relationships, work ethic, and even overall success.

[00:01:11] – Dougs defining moment
[00:03:27] – Defining sexual addiction
[00:19:41] – What is intimacy anorexia, and what’s contributing to it?
[00:30:37] – Reinforcing yours AND your partner’s experiences, and matching types of expression in sex
[00:39:28] – Partner betrayal trauma
[00:44:08] – What makes intimate relationships unique
[00:46:19] – More on sex and porn addiction
[00:50:45] – Sex addiction and ADHD
[00:54:11] – Can you be addicted to validation? 
[00:57:58] – Can sex addiction escalate into something darker?
[01:00:51] – On narcissism

Dr. Doug Weiss is the Executive Director of Heart to Heart Counseling Center and has been helping couples and individuals for over thirty years. He is the President of the American Association for Sexual Addiction Therapy where his treatment model for sex addiction, partner betrayal trauma, and intimacy anorexia is used in counseling practices all over the world. 

His direct and charismatic approach to handling tough issues has made him sought after for professional appearances on television shows such as The Oprah Winfrey show, Dr. Phil, Good Morning America, 20/20, The Doctors, Daystar, FoxNews, CNN, Montel, and more.

Dr. Doug Weiss has written and filmed over 40 books and therapeutic teachings that directly address specific issues in relationships regarding intimacy, sex, partner betrayal trauma, sex addiction, parenting, and more. He has had more than one Lifetime movie made about his counseling practice (Heart to Heart Counseling Center) in Colorado Springs. 

Connect with Doug

-Website: https://www.drdougweiss.com/

-Intimacy Anorexia: https://intimacyanorexia.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drdougweiss

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drdougweiss

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/drdougweiss

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It’s not easy. It’s not simple. It’s not comfortable. It’s definitely not fun. But it’s good for you, and in times like these may be one of the most important skills to cultivate.

Pick up my brand-new book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. 

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Talking points: anger, relationships, finances, birth, mental health, masculine/feminine dynamics

Delighted to have the frank yet eloquent honesty of Christine Hassler on the show. This episode is a top choice to listen to with your partner if you’re looking for some relationship advice that combines practicality, spirituality, and much more.

[01:02] – Christine’s defining moment.

[07:59] – Christine on women and anger

[12:23] – How Connor and Christine define ego.

[15:25] – Women and anger.

[28:14] – How can men effectively address a woman’s anger?

[36:57] – How modern relationships have changed for men and women.

[48:59] – What conversations should people be having about money?

Christine Hassler is a master coach, spiritual psychologist, facilitator, and speaker with 20 years of experience. She is the best-selling author of three books, most recently Expectation Hangover: Free Yourself From Your Past, Change Your Present and Get What you Really Want and is the host of top-rated podcast “Over it and On With It” where she coaches people live on the show. Christine is the co-founder of Elementum Coaching Institute, a premier coaching certification program. She also holds in-person retreats and teaches online courses on relationships, calling in love, healing your inner child, and personal mastery.

Connect with Christine

-Website: https://christinehassler.com/

-Podcast: https://christinehassler.com/podcast/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/christinehassler/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/christinehasslerpage/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/ChristinHassler

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/christinehassler

Pick up my brand-new book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. 

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There are a LOT of relationship tips and tricks on social media. Lots of traps too, and this one is possibly the worst. Dig in, dear listener.

What’s your take? Would love to hear your thoughts on Instagram (or check the YouTube video)!

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Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. 

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Talking points: relationships, IMAGO therapy, emotional intelligence, social media, attachment theory, conflict, sex, intimacy, artificial intelligence

Deeply grateful to have sat down with Nick last week to chat about all things relationships. Nick is, frankly, one of the best in the biz, and his compassionate yet no-nonsense approach has helped a great many people.

If you’re interested AT ALL in levelling up your intimate relationships, this is an episode to listen to. Strongly recommend you listen alongside your partner—or at least share it with them later.

[00:01:04] – Nick’s defining moment
[00:09:48] – What made you choose IMAGO certification?
[00:12:15] – Where do you see modern relationships breaking down most often?
[00:15:57] – How would you say social media has affect modern relationships?
[00:21:08] – What does it mean when your partner says “I’m not feeling seen”?
[00:25:50] – What other ways can we support our partner in being heard?
[00:28:52] – So what is IMAGO therapy based on? What tools does it deploy?
[00:44:49] – What are some of main challenges couples face in the realm is sex and intimacy?
[00:59:11] – Do you think AI is going to impact the future of intimate relationships?
[01:07:33] – We ultimately want to bump up against each other at a deeper level
[01:10:25] – What’s your definition of a conscious relationship?

Nick Solaczek Certified IMAGO Relationship Coach, working with individuals and couples to boost their emotional intelligence and success in romantic relationships. He emphasizes safe conversation techniques, mindfulness, authenticity, and boundary setting.
 
Nick is based in Vancouver, Canada, and has coached Hollywood celebrities, CEO’s, secret agents, high-profile lawyers, therapists, doctors, fresh partners and lifelong marriages. He’s also been privileged to assist Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt (founders of IMAGO and authors of the bestseller Getting the Love You Want) in their online training for couples.

Connect with Nick

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicksolaczek/
-Couples Course – Romatic Relationship Reset: https://nicksolaczek.com/reset/
-Website: www.nicksolaczek.com

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I didn’t always have it figured out. There are times even now when I still feel lost. But after relentless work and coaching thousands of men over the years, there are a few ideas that have risen to the top and truly helped me and others overcome that feeling of being rudderless.

Pick up my brand-new book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. 

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Talking points: anger, inner critic, passive aggressiveness, shame

Haven’t done one of these in a while! Every so often I’ll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men’s work at ManTalks is actually like. This time, my guest is already familiar with what we do, so I dive right in.

If you’re the kind of person who has difficulty standing up for themselves, or can’t seem to control negative self-talk, this may be a helpful episode to dig into. We talk a lot about something I call “implosive anger”, aka when instead of having a healthy relationship with the anger you feel, you suppress and direct it back at yourself.

Pick up my brand-new book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. 

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First off, why is this happening? Second, is there any kind of silver lining? These are the two major questions on my mind this mini-episode, plus why I think there’s a growing number of people (men especially) searching for more hands-on, apprenticeship style training. Listen in.

Pick up my brand-new book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. 

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Talking points: addiction, psychedelics, the trouble with success, death, grief, masculinity, How I Met Your Mother

Honestly, there’s not a single topic Josh and I didn’t cover in this episode. We’ve been friends for years and wanted to jam together for a long time, and it’s clear we had a ton to talk about. Deeply grateful for his insight, perspective, and stories.

This is a great episode if you’re looking for the perfect combo of candid, vulnerable, and funny.

[00:06:02] – Josh’s defining moments

[00:18:43] – Addictive personalities

[00:23:01] – The power of empathy and forgiveness

[00:31:04] – What’s brilliant about 12-step

[00:35:03] – What was happening in Josh’s life when How I Met Your Mother became successful

[00:42:06] – What made HIMYM successful, and it’s portrayal of masculinity (and Canadians)

[00:50:47] – “The baseline question [of HIMYM] was ‘Who Am I?'”

[00:58:55] – Depth vs growth, Jung’s puer aeternus, and death

[01:14:03] – The role of a parent, unconditional love, and what Josh’s dog Nelson has taught him

[01:24:46] – Josh’s experience with plant medicines

Writer, director, and actor Josh Radnor is a multifaceted talent, bringing a wealth of experience to all his endeavors. Radnor is perhaps best known for playing Ted, the central character in the seven-time Emmy-winning comedy, “How I Met Your Mother.”

Premiering at the 2010 Sundance Film Festival, where it won the Audience Award, Radnor directed, wrote and starred in his first feature film, “happythankyoumoreplease.” The film was released in March 2011, and featured an ensemble cast including Richard Jenkins, Malin Akerman, Kate Mara, Zoe Kazan, and Tony Hale.

Radnor’s second directorial effort came with the Sundance Film Festival favorite “Liberal Arts”, which he also wrote and starred in alongside Elizabeth Olsen, Richard Jenkins, and Allison Janney. His upcoming music album, “Eulogy”, will be released later this year.

In addition to film and television, Radnor starred on Broadway as the title character in “The Graduate” opposite Kathleen Turner and Alicia Silverstone. Off-Broadway and regionally, he has appeared in productions with the Manhattan Theater Club, The Vineyard Theater, and Baltimore Center Stage, among others. A gifted writer, Radnor has published several articles in the Los Angeles Times Magazine, Guilt and Pleasure Magazine, Moviemaker Magazine, Indiewire, and The Huffington Post.

A native of Columbus, Ohio, Mr. Radnor attended Kenyon College where he won the Paul Newman Acting Trophy. He received his MFA in acting from NYU’s Tisch School of the Arts. He currently resides in Los Angeles.

Connect with Josh:

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/JoshRadnor/

Pick up my brand-new book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

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Artificial intelligence is already changing the game for a number of industries, and I’m thinking erotica won’t be an exception. But how? In what ways? And what’s next? Lastly, I’d love to get your thoughts on this. DM me on Instagram to let me know!

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Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. 

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Talking points: trauma, sexual abuse, physical abuse, emotional abuse, trauma culture, therapy

I was connected to Katherine Ann through my own mentor, the incredible gestalt therapist Duey Freeman. Her story is intense, powerful, and most importantly, it’s shows the importance and possibilities inherent in trauma work and group work. I applaud Katherine Ann for coming forward and sharing her story.

[00:01:12] – Katherine Ann’s defining moment

[00:08:50] – the role Katherine Ann’s father played in her life

[00:15:12] – Were you believed about what was happening, and how did your trauma start manifesting?

[00:26:44] – How did what happened shape your perception of men, and how has that evolved since doing trauma excavation?

[00:40:16] – What would you say to people who struggle with forgiving what’s happened?

[00:45:27] – What is trauma excavation?

[00:54:44] – Do you get the sense that trauma work has become so mainstream it’s been watered down?

Katherine Ann is a mother of five grown children – 2 daughters and 3 stepsons. She resides in Boulder, CO with her beloved husband. After years of abuse and trauma, followed by 30 years (thus far) of healing, she recently released her website – see KatherineAnn.com – and is sharing her life story and experiences in hopes of helping others heal from trauma and abuse, and transform from a place of just surviving to thriving in life. The connection Katherine Ann has with (Connor) is through Duey Freeman, who has been a therapist for almost 50 years with about 80,000 contact hours with clients. Katherine Ann has worked with Duey individually and collectively with her siblings. Recently, Duey stated on Traver Boehm’s podcast that, Katherine Ann, and her brother and her sister, “were involved in probably the most bizarre and intense situation of abuse – both physical and sexual – that I’ve seen.” In 2008, in a letter of promotion for the three siblings when they planned to write a book together, Duey wrote about the abuse as, “the most intense, insidious, and malicious case of abuse and incest I have ever known. It is a story of love and hate, of physical and sexual abuse, of incredible humiliation and manipulation. A story that makes you cry and then pray for both forgiveness and healing.” Katherine Ann’s book will be published later this year.

Connect with Katherine Ann

-Website: https://katherineann.com/intro/introduction/

-Facebook: https://bit.ly/3NbKOyF

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/katherineannhealing/

Pick up my brand-new book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. 

Enjoy the podcast? If so, please leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Stitcher, or Podchaser. It helps us get into the ears of new listeners, expand the ManTalks Community, and help others find the tools