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Talking points: culture, relationships, systemic issues

66% of young men are single, fewer and fewer men are graduating college, boys are disproportionately punished in school, there are fewer male teachers and therapists than ever, and millions of men aren’t even listed as unemployed because they’re simply not seeking work. Something’s going on.

(00:00:00) – Intro and some stats
(00:04:17) – I’m not going to sit here and blame men OR women
(00:06:30) – Social reasons men check out
(00:09:45) – The definition of a good man is almost entirely up to women 
(00:12:06) – Structurally, men aren’t being incentivized to go into higher education
(00:14:59) – I think that support networks for men and boys are collapsing or are not male friendly
(00:16:57) – Men generally aren’t finding resonance in the therapeutic industry, nor can they find male therapists
(00:19:41) – There’s been a significant decline in the number and diversity of male relationships
(00:22:30) – Where do we go from here?

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Talking points: breathwork, neurophysiology, fear

I know many, many people whose lives have been profoundly changed by getting into Wim’s style of breathwork, myself included. This was one of my absolute favorite interviews, and Wim’s fierceness and passion for helping people is absolutely mind-blowing.

If you’re looking to understand a little more about what breathwork can do, this is THE episode for you.

(00:00:00) – Intro and what happens when men gather
(00:03:56) – One of Wim’s defining moments: trapped under the ice
(00:06:14) – Wim’s journey with fear 
(00:11:13) – How do we begin using our breath to confront fear, and some of the science behind breath work. 
(00:20:38) – On how breath helps regulate the nervous system
(00:28:07) – Why breath work and cold therapy? 
(00:31:57) – Are there any similarities between deep breath work and psychedelics? 
(00:36:48) – Does breathwork behave similarly to DMT?
(00:42:23) – Why do some people get tingly or see shapes during breath work?
(00:49:00) – Are inflammation and fear related?

Wim Hof, aka “The Iceman,” is a Dutch extreme athlete born. Renowned for his ability to withstand extreme cold, Hof has set records for ice endurance and advocates for the health benefits of cold exposure combined with his breathing techniques. His Wim Hof Method, a blend of cold therapy, breathing, and meditation, claims to control the autonomic nervous system and immune response, intriguing scientists and wellness enthusiasts alike. Beyond his physical feats, Hof promotes a philosophy of natural living and the mind-body connection, inspiring people globally to explore their own potential boundaries.

Connect with Wim

-Website: https://www.wimhofmethod.com/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxHTM1FYxeC4F7xDsBVltGg

 

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Talking points: potential, growth, mindset

We all have images of who and what we’re capable of. Flashes of motivation and inspiration based on what we know deep, deep down to be true of us.

Getting from images to reality, from dreams to concrete fact, is the battle. The best one you’ll ever fight. The following are simple (but not easy) steps based on years of work with men, endless hours of study, and mentorship with some amazing people.

(00:00:00) – Intro and where the challenge lies
(00:03:37) – Develop skills that matter to you, will improve your life, and improve others’ lives
(00:05:32) – Know (and take) the risk
(00:08:04) – Connect to your direct, felt experience
(00:12:40) – Express and transmit what you’re experiencing
(00:14:17) – Realize what it is you want, but pay attention to what life is saying you need
(00:15:27 ) – Pursue your fears and discomfort
(00:16:48 ) – Pay attention to your own darkness AND learn what it’s trying to teach you 

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Talking points: psychedelics, therapy, culture, interdependence, history, materialism

It’s been several years since I last talked with Paul, and he’s been busy. We branch out into a number of ideas, all centered around what psychedelics have done, are doing, and COULD do for humanity.

If you’re looking for thoughts from an expert on where the therapeutic industry might be headed—and what’s needed from all of us—this is the conversation for you. Listen in.

(00:00:00) – Intro and Paul’s defining moment
(00:06:02) – Why do you think psychedelics were so villainized back in the day?
(00:11:29) – Would you say that part of the psychedelic experience is interaction with the unconscious?
(00:15:16) – Did psychedelics influence Jung’s “Red Book”, and how can psychedelic use actually improve mental health?
(00:24:11) – Psychedelic use should also assist collective mental health, not just individualistic goals
(00:29:42) – What is the recipe for a bad trip, and the importance of preparation and post-trip integration
(00:39:20) – Paul’s thoughts on the future, and possible concerns culturally and for teenagers
(00:46:43) – How can psychedelics impact our capacity to lead ourselves and others?
(00:56:10) – What would individuals and leaders do to deepen their understanding of interdependence?

Paul F. Austin is one of the most prominent voices in the world of psychedelics. As the founder of Third Wave, he has educated millions on the importance of safe and effective psychedelic experiences. A pioneer at the intersection of microdosing, personal transformation, and professional success, he has been featured in Forbes, Rolling Stone, and the BBC’s Worklife. Paul helps others use microdosing as a tool for professional development and increased self-awareness by treating the use of psychedelics as a skill refined through mentorship and courageous exploration. 

Connect with Paul

-Website: https://www.paulaustin.co/

-The Third Wave: https://thethirdwave.co/

-The Psychdelic Coaching Institute: https://psychedeliccoaching.institute/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paulaustin3w/

-Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-psychedelic-podcast/id1200537009

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Talking points: domestication, culture, biology

To be clear straight out the gates, I don’t think there’s some vast conspiracy to weaken all men. But there are certain aspects of our culture, our food, and more that have a synergistic effect. One that’s messing with men on multiple levels. Listen in.

(00:00:00) – Intro and the ways men are becoming domesticated
(00:03:18) – Masculinity and what it means to be a good man is now almost entirely defined by women
(00:05:40) – A narrative that men are essentially defective women, or unwanted, or automatically at fault
(00:10:42) – The simplification is also biological, through microplastics, additives, and more
(00:13:59) – Stress and distraction levels are through the roof
(00:17:03) – So…what do we do?
(00:20:04) – Life isn’t supposed to be easy all the time

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Talking points: trauma, culture, collective healing

Wow! Very grateful to have had the opportunity to sit with Thomas recently to discuss not just his book, but his vision and mission for people everywhere. This was a deeply moving conversation; Thomas’ perspective on how trauma forms and how it needs to be healed will be resonating with me for a long, long time. Check this out.

(00:00:00) – Intro and Thomas’ two defining moments
(00:06:41) – How trauma reorients your perspective towards safety 
(00:10:37) – What is “attunement”?
(00:23:10) – Tension is reduction of emotion 
(00:30:55) – Where does polarization fit into all of this?
(00:40:23) – How do we start dealing with this?
(00:45:53) – What’s covered in Thomas’ new book

Thomas Hübl, PhD, is a renowned teacher, author, and international facilitator who works within the complexity of systems and cultural change, integrating the core insights of the great wisdom traditions and mysticism with the discoveries of science. Since the early 2000s, he has led large-scale events and courses on the healing of collective trauma.

He is the author of Attuned: Practicing Interdependence to Heal Our Trauma—and Our World, and Healing Collective Trauma: A Process for Integrating Our Intergenerational and Cultural Wounds. Hübl has served as an advisor and guest faculty for universities and organizations, as a coach for CEOs and organizational leaders, and is currently a visiting scholar at the Wyss Institute at Harvard University.

Connect with Thomas

-Website: https://thomashuebl.com/

-Book: Attuned: https://www.attunedbook.com/

-Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Thomas.Huebl.Sangha/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thomashuebl/

-Podcast: https://thomashuebl.com/#podcast

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Talking points: anxiety, insecurity, mindset

Ever do research on a topic and realize most of the stuff on the internet is…pretty worthless? Yeah me too. This week, a look at what really causes insecurity, and some things you can do that will actually help.

(00:00:00) – Intro
(00:03:05) – Defining insecurity
(00:04:53) – What makes this reframe interesting, and 3 ways insecurities are formed
(00:09:09) – So what do we do? Because there’s no quick fix
(00:11:18) – You cannot affirm your way out of insecurity
(00:13:22) – Pursue your fears
(00:15:38) – Focus on the intersection of self-compassion and self-mastery

Release porn as a crutch, reclaim your time, and recover intimacy. Introducing the Porn Detox Program: https://mantalks.com/porn/

This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/

Pick up my book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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Talking points: couples therapy, emotions, modern culture, empathy

Delighted to have the wit and wisdom of Figs O’Sullivan to content with once again. It’s been too long! We cover a lot of ground, specifically around couples therapy, so I encourage you to check the timestamps and listen in.

(00:00:00) – As people learn more “therapy-speak” and watch more TikTok “experts”, how is that filtering down into relationships?

(00:06:50) – Why do some people default to blaming their partner when things don’t go well?

(00:12:57) – Why talk about diagnosing partners yourself is so difficult, and how competency can actually, sometimes, make you IN-competent

(00:18:24) – What’s your opinion on modern therapy infiltrating culture the way it has?

(00:22:49) – Is modern therapy set up well enough to truly help men?

(00:30:25) – Why do couples fight over and over—and what do they fight about?

(00:30:25) – The emotional pursuer and emotional withdrawer dynamic

(00:41:25) – What are some ways out of that dynamic?

(00:46:17) – What gets in the way of empathy, and how can that be overcome?

(00:50:37) – What does good couples therapy entail, and how do you know it’s working?

(00:55:25) – It’s important to pay attention to the ease of things as well as hard stuff

Connect with Figs

-Website: https://empathi.com/

-Podcast: Come Here To Me: https://get.empathi.com/comehere

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/empathinow/

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnPbjlO6Q0KBXVHXeGyivlw

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Talking points: porn, attachment, relationships

Title says it all, friends. I genuinely don’t see very many people talking about porn from this angle. Which is kind of surprising, but here we are. Listen in.

(00:00:00) – Intro and some of my own story around porn
(00:03:49) – What nobody else seems to be talking about
(00:07:57) – And THAT is why porn can be hard to let go of
(00:10:32) – Reorienting yourself towards other relationships

Release porn as a crutch, reclaim your time, and recover intimacy. Introducing the Porn Detox Program: https://mantalks.com/porn/

This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/

Pick up my book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from around the world. Check out The Alliance and join me today. 

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Talking points: adversity, disability, resiliency vs anti-fragility, growth, mindset

Everything about this convo was enjoyable, but I think what I appreciate most is how pragmatic and straight-up grounded Tom’s insights are. It makes for highly effective advice you can work on right away. Bonus: he’s a great storyteller.

This is a great episode to dig into if you’re looking for inspiration towards a different approach to things, especially hardship.

(00:00:00) – Intro, and the importance of living in a place you don’t always like
(00:07:00) – Tom’s defining moment
(00:09:43) – What Tom gained from intense physical hardship
(00:15:52) – Reorienting yourself instead of the problem, and post-traumatic growth
(00:20:05) – Is resiliency born or revealed by hardship, and have people treated you differently?
(00:23:25) – How do you approach problem-solving itself, and how Tom became a DJ
(00:34:10) – Tom’s definition of anti-fragile and resiliency
(00:50:06) – Did therapy help?

Quadruple amputee and DJ, Tom Nash exercises his unique knack for storytelling alongside his often dark and dry sense of humour, to lead audiences down a path of self-discovery, encouraging them to inspect their lives from a different angle. Tom’s grounded approach to working out what’s important and setting aside the noise of life, resonates with listeners.

Tom explains how harnessing the power of adversity helped him to build a more pragmatic, productive and self-reflective mindset. Applying the lateral thinking methods imbued upon him to circumnavigate physical issues into his vocational endeavours carved out a new line of thinking.

Connect with Tom

-Website: https://www.tomnash.com/

-TED Talk: http://bit.ly/TomNashTEDMain

-Book: Hook, Line & Sinner: https://www.tomnash.com/hls

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/djhookie/

-Twitter: https://twitter.com/djhookie

-YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/tomnash82

This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/

Pick up my book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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Talking points: sex, social media, conditioning, culture

I know what it’s like to feel controlled by your own sexed-up brain. Like you’re losing hours of your day, mental bandwidth and more to clothes-less strangers on the internet.

So I wanted to lay down some real talk about what I’ve done—and how hard it can be—to de-sexualize my brain and stay disciplined. I also get into some of the benefits it’s hard for me, my business, and my relationship. Listen in.

(00:00:00) – Intro and why I’m talking about this
(00:04:31) – Not only is your brain probably overstimulated, it’s probably avoiding something
(00:06:16) – You’re going to have to get some excitement somewhere
(00:08:10) – Cut out thirsty triggers
(00:11:18) – Stop chasing empty dopamine “calories”
(00:12:22) – Use tech properly
(00:14:30) – Use BETTER tools

This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/

Pick up my book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men’s Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/

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Talking points: fatherhood, abandonment, depression, coping

Every so often, I’ll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what the men’s work at ManTalks is actually like. This week I wanted to feature a client who struggles with something I’m deeply familiar with: knowing what the work is AND doing that work, but nothing’s really felt “resolved”.

Together, we uncover some of what’s been keeping his progress in what feels like stasis. Listen in.

(00:00:00) – Intro and what my guest wants to work on
(00:04:26) – What’s disruptive for you about being rejected?
(00:08:35) – The complexities of divorce
(00:13:52) – “I don’t really get angry”
(00:19:07) – Movement, at times, requires anger
(00:26:21) – Talking to your 8-year-old self
(00:30:35) – What 8-year-old-you might say back
(00:33:24) – The Homework

This episode is brought to you by Cured Nutrition! Cured offers everything from CBD to functional mushroom products to adaptogens designed to help the body thrive in all aspects of the daily human experience. Personal favorite? The Zen sleep bundle. Get 20% off your order here: https://www.curednutrition.com/mantalks/

Men, join me for an intense, depth-oriented training regimen called the Men’s Self-Leadership Program. Customized curriculum, direct work with me, and limited to just 8 men: https://mantalks.com/mslp/

Pick up my book, Men’s Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/

Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship

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