10 Life Lessons Every Man Should Learn In Their 20s

Jul 26, 2015

In this article, I feel really privileged to share with you some key insights and “aha” moments that I learned before I say goodbye to my twenties in August 27, 2015.

You and I live in a world of cause and effect. Every action has an equal reaction. The choices we make today, especially in our 20s, will determine what happens later on in our lives.

Whether you’re on your own and moving forward with your career or still with your parents and figuring out what to do, I want you to realize something. If you’re not mindful of how you spend your time, it’ll be gone before you know it. It’s easy to get lost in the transition from not having any significant responsibilities to facing the “real world.”

You may not see it immediately but at some point, you’ll have to face the consequences the decisions you’re making today. Your 20s, also knowns as your “defining decade,” matters and you should make the most out of it.

Here are some of the most important lessons every man should be aware of in order to become successful later on in their lives.

10 Life Lessons Every Man Should Know In Their 20s

Don’t Stay In A Job That You Hate

With the amount of time you have to invest in building a career, make sure it should be something you’re really interested in. You’re in a perfect time in your life right now to figure that out because you’re still young.

Trust me when I say this: the pursuit of more money doesn’t satisfy any longer once your basic needs are met. I encourage you to go ahead and take more risk while you don’t have a lot to lose.

If you’re working a job you hate, it’s your responsibility to do something about it. Until you find what you love to do, keep looking.

Life is too short to settle.

You Don’t Have To Go To School

We live in a time where there’s nothing you can’t find online. Education has changed and the way we process information is significantly different from before.

Unless you’ve chosen a profession that needs formal credentials, like Law, Medicine or Engineering, you don’t really need to pursue higher education to have a successful career.

If you feel like you’re sitting in class, twiddling your thumbs and bored out of your mind, that setting may not be right for you.

Figure out what kind of work energizes you and find resources to study about it. Go to conferences and connect with other people who already have results that you want.

If you’re learning something you enjoy, you’re much more likely to put all in. People pay for results, they don’t care about your credentials.

Pursuit knowledge rather money.

Choose Your Friends Wisely

Here’s the greatest life hack of all time: the quickest way to change is to surround yourself with the kind of people you aspire to be like. Who you’re around with all the time will have a significant impact on how you turn out to be.

When you act in integrity with the vision of who you want to become, not everybody is going to like you. As hard as it may be, let go of relationships that are not supportive of your goals. Find new ones that will.

Your environment is stronger than your will power. Constantly put yourself in situations where you’re around people who will celebrate your successes, no matter how small.

It’s Okay To Stay Single

I’m going to make an important distinction right here so pay attention. There’s a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely.

Being alone is a choice that you make to do what you want. It’s about learning how to and be in good company with yourself. The feeling of loneliness stems from a place of lack where you feel incomplete. When you come from this place, you’ll seek out acceptance from others to validate your self-worth.

Your 20s should be spent on figuring out your identity and defining your core values. Focus on activities that will increase your self-esteem. Know who you are and what you really want. Other people can’t do that for you.

Gain Wisdom From Travelling

You’d be surprised how much you’ll learn a lot about yourself when you’re taken away from your daily routine. When you travel, there’s a feeling of anonymity that you experience when you’re in a new environment.

You can show up as whoever you want. There’s no one to tell you otherwise. Travelling is a great way to reinvent yourself.

Go ahead and give yourself permission to become who you aspire to be. Travel to places you’ve always wanted to see, connect with people who you look up to and lead your life in a direction that’s right for you.

Define Your Own Purpose

What you’re meant to do in your life isn’t something that you find behind a bush or underneath a rock. It’s something you decide for yourself. Take more risk, especially while you don’t have a lot of obligations.

If money wasn’t an issue, what’s something you would love to do? What’s a topic you would enjoy learning more about?

The moment you’re in alignment with your purpose, you’ll do remarkable things as a by-product. You’ll feel so immersed in what you do that sleeping becomes the worst part of your day.

When you’re leaping out of bed because you can’t wait to get to work, that’s when people begin to take notice.

It’s hard not to because passion is very contagious.

Avoid Comparing Yourself To Others

The best way to feel like you’re not good enough is to keep looking at what other people have. Success in life is very subjective. Everyone has their own definition of what makes them happy.

What’s the point of being alive if you just want to be like everybody else?

Learn to play your own game. Set your goals and work hard at achieving them. Spend your days in a way that inspires your future self.

Self-worth comes from being thankful for what you already have. Whatever you appreciate, appreciates

Invest In Yourself, Not On Things

Nothing in life is permanent. Material assets can be easily taken away.

When you focus on the internal, you’ll get external abundance as a by-product and more. Wealth is a mindset. It’s a shift in your perspective that will cause you to do things differently.

Invest in your personal development rather than things that are temporary. Knowledge and experience can never be stolen.

Make Mistakes Often

There’s something transformational that happens when you go through experiences in your life that push you out of your comfort zone.

When you get close to the edge, you have two choices: you can either take a leap of faith and step into your higher potential or you can step back and make room for others who are going to.

Integrity is a habit that you have to consciously decide on a daily basis. It’s a choice that you make to honour the truth of what you think is right for yourself.

But first, you have to sit through the discomfort of uncertainty for a period of time and trust in the process. Wisdom only comes from circumstances that challenge you.

Character is forged through pressure and hardships. When you’re going through tough moments, be thankful! View challenging situations in your life as an opportunity to grow.

Broke And Poor Are Not The Same

Being broke is a temporary state that people go through in their journey. It’s when they pay their dues to get the skills and experience to become successful.

Being poor is a permanent state of mind. It’s a way of thinking that limits people from achieving abundance because they don’t think there’s enough for everyone.

The path to success is never linear. As you embark on your journey to self-discovery and self-fulfillment, you’ll go through tough moments inevitably.

Never wish for things to be easy because it won’t be. Instead, ask for strength to be able to endure and persevere. Those who come out on the other side are rewarded with more.

Being broke for a while is not a bad thing. As long as you have a plan and are taking massive action to create value for other people, success is inevitable.

Myke MacapinlacAbout Myke Macapinlac 

Myke Macapinlac is the Program Director of Social Man Project. His mission is to help shy men become socially confident so they can create the dating life they deserve.

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