At a men’s weekend, one of the guests asked me to give a simple breakdown of what I did to climb out of the wreckage of my life. While life is always more complicated than some 5-step solution, these are the biggest, most impactful steps I took—just in time for the new year!

(00:00:00) – Intro
(00:00:40) – Stop lying
(00:03:03) – Do what you need (but don’t want) to do
(00:04:30) – Replaced coping mechanisms with generative habits—one at a time
(00:06:06) – Do some more of what you love
(00:07:13) – Learn to regulate your nervous system, aka get better impulse control

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