Archives for December 2015

Time for Reflection and New Goals with Roger Nairn and Connor Beaton

Episode: 023

Roger and Connor talk on how to set and achieve goals effectively.

 
Introduction:
Roger and Connor catch up on their year with ManTalks and talk about why every man should do a
reflection on the year past. Connor recommends a couple of key questions the audience can ask
themselves to provide better insight on how their year went. Roger and Connor also talk about their goals
with ManTalks, as well as their personal goals for the New Year.
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Key Takeaways:
[0:35] For this episode, Roger and Connor will be reflecting on their year.
[2:15] Get rid of programs and phone apps that aren’t serving you.
[2:55] Why is reflection important?
[3:45] What is Connor’s process of reflection?
[9:15] Where do you thrive the most?
[10:05] Where have you struggled the most? Reflect on this so that you don’t fall into the same trap.
[12:25] High achievers carry a lot of guilt when they don’t accomplish their year-end goals.
[13:40] Roger plans to color more in 2016.
[14:20] Why do you have the goals that you have? Is it just for ego?
[16:00] Who are the people in your life that you’re thankful for?
[18:15] You don’t have to stop life just because you’re going into a new year.
[20:20] Connor has flexible goals.
[24:50] What can people look forward to from ManTalks in 2016?
[27:20] Feel free to email us guest recommendations.
[28:40] Roger recommends Think and Grow Rich to develop a healthy goal mindset.
[29:35] What will it cost you to achieve your goal and are you willing to pay the price?
[30:25] Be honest with yourself.
[31:00] What will your vision statement for 2016 be?
[32:45] Take the next week off to reflect on your year.
 

Mentioned In This Episode:
https://mantalks.com/
https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/school-greatness-lewis-howes/id596047499?mt=2
The School of Greatness by Lewis Howes
[email protected]
https://twitter.com/man_talks
https://www.facebook.com/ManTalks.ca/
Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

 
Music Credit:
J Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)
Tweetables:
“Where do I thrive and where do I struggle?”
“The transition into a new year, you don’t necessarily have to stop life and refresh everything.”
“What are you willing to sacrifice to accomplish your goals?”

Man Of The Week – Jason Sarai

He left the comfort of the corporate world of finance to pursue his passions of fashion and fitness. Little did Jason know that what started as a passion project would quickly unfold into a more rewarding and fulfilling life choice. Today, Jason is involved in all facets of fashion and fitness, from creating his own bespoke suit line, to being a VP of Catalyst Kinetics Group. A man of values, Jason felt a responsibility to give back to the community around him, so he co-founded his own not-for-profit 1KARMA, through this and other efforts, Jason has been involved in numerous fundraising efforts, totalling over millions of dollars, to support local organizations like BC Children’s Hospital, Covenant House Vancouver and the Vancouver Art Gallery. Jason is a true example of what being a successful man looks like when one gracefully balances pursuing your purpose with giving back to those less fortunate. Please welcome our newest Man Of The Week, Jason Sarai!
Age: 35 on Dec. 29th. No point holding onto 34 anymore ☺
What do you do? (Work)
I left the corporate world of finance to pursue my passions in fashion and fitness in 2013.
I’m a Bespoke Stylist and CEO of Style by Sarai – a multidisciplinary fashion, design, image and style consulting business.  I started a bespoke suit line, called Jason Sarai, using fabrics from Italy and England from world renown mills. The suits are tailored and customized here in Vancouver, Canada.
I’m also VP of Catalyst Kinetics Group in Burnaby with my role focusing on fitness, active rehabilitation and business development.
Finally, I’m the co-founder of a not-for-profit business 1KARMA, with my business partner Riaz Meghji.
Why do you do it?
I’ve been passionate about fitness and fashion my whole life. Through my careers, I now have the ability to help people become more confident, increase their self-esteem, and put their best foot forward by assisting them to achieve their health and style goals. I work almost twice the amount of hours as I did while I was in finance, yet it doesn’t feel like work.
How do you make a difference in the world? (Work, business, life, family, self)
Several years ago, I was advised to think globally and act locally in terms of giving back to the community. My good friend Riaz Meghji and I started 1KARMA, a not-for-profit business, to raise awareness and funds towards local charitable causes and organizations.
Being fortunate to be blessed with health and opportunity, I believe greatly in donating my time, through mentorship and services. With my businesses, I’m thankful to be able to provide services to events that support various causes and organizations.
Since 2013, I have also had the opportunity to showcase well-rounded individuals that give back to their community, through my editorial series Men of Vancouver and Women of Vancouver for Vancity Buzz. The professionals I feature are hardworking, give back to their community, and are confident with who they are and the legacy that they are creating. I believe that sharing their success stories help create awareness about individuals making a positive impact towards society. They are an inspiration.
What are 3 defining moments in your life?
– Tearing my ACL playing for the second time when playing NCAA men’s soccer in Pittsburgh causing a change in focus from pursuing professional soccer to education
– Changing careers from corporate finance to starting businesses in Fashion and Fitness
– Marriage
What is your life purpose?
My life’s purpose is to pursue my passions, play to my strengths, and have a meaningful impact through my work and to give back/pay it forward to those in need in the community, both locally and globally.
How did you tap into it?
I want to make people feel strong and confident through helping them reach their goals and leading by example. Whether that is through work or my relationships with family, friends and colleagues.
Who is your Role-Model or Mentor?
I’m fortunate to have multiple mentors of various ages that I seek business and life counsel from.  I’ve always believed in surrounding myself with people that are smarter or better at a set activity, task or skill. Whether it was during my sporting career to my life in business.
Do you have any daily habits? If so, what are they?
Healthy breakfast
Working out
Listening to music
Praying
Social media
Reading
When do you know your work/life balance is off?
My balance is constantly changing. I’ve let go of trying to find an ideal balance as I feel that life will shift focus naturally depending on how I prioritize what is happening in my life at that set time, from a relationship, health/fitness and career standpoint.  Therefore my work/life balance is at a constant flux and I don’t see that changing for some time.
Vulnerability is a challenge for most men – share a vulnerable moment from your life with us.
A vulnerable moment for me was leaving a corporate career as an investment advisor to pursing my passions in fashion and fitness, starting from scratch.
What did you learn from it?
Through following my passion, I was able to feel more connected with my work and new careers.  With Style by Sarai, I had to follow my instinct and pave a new pathway as there were only a few similar businesses to replicate globally. My passion and commitment allows me to keep pushing forward, which has created new opportunities. I believe vulnerability has the ability to create opportunity.
If you are or were going to be a mentor for another man, what is one piece of advice you would give him?
Don’t set any limitations. Think and dream BIG.
How do you be the best partner (Boyfriend/Husband- past or present)
– You constantly have to work at your relationship.  Communication is key.
– Date nights and small getaway trips to connect, reflect and detach from the weekly grind
– Build trust, honesty and vulnerability
– Have fun
– Make her smile
Do you support any Charities or Not-for-profits? (Which one(s) and why?)
I’ve always been a believer in supporting organizations, societies and charities whether it is through volunteering, mentoring or financially.
When I turned 30 years old I realized that I was spreading myself thin through various causes without being truly connected to any.  I couldn’t comfortably state how my funds donated were being distributed.
Being in finance as an investment advisor at the time, it made sense to do my due diligence and understand exactly what my money and time were being donated towards.  It was at this point that I reached out to my good friend Riaz Meghji, host of Breakfast Television, about the idea of starting a not-for-profit business as we both were attending and supporting several events through work and our own personal network.
We started 1KARMA in 2012 with the goal to raise funds and awareness towards different organizations and causes every year.  We have worked with and supported Covenant House Vancouver, Camp Goodtimes with Canadian Cancer Society, and DUDES Club in DTES. We have raised approximately $50,000 thanks to our donators and corporate sponsors.
In September, I was invited to be a Co-Chair of the Nordstrom Opening Gala. More than 2,000 people attended a sold-out gala and fashion show and the event raised $420K benefitting BC Children’s Hospital Foundation, BC Women’s Hospital & Health Centre Foundation, Covenant House Vancouver and the Vancouver Art Gallery.
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This past November, Riaz and I represented 1KARMA and joined 53 local executives and professionals of Vancouver to raise awareness and funds for homeless youth and Covenant House. This was our 4th year of sleeping out in an alley in downtown Vancouver to experience a small glimpse of the reality that homeless youth face on a daily basis. I’m proud to be part of a collective effort that surpassed the fundraising goal of $450K by raising $670K to this deserving cause and great organization.

Annual Executive Sleep Out supporting homeless youth and raising funds and awareness for Covenant House Vancouver
Annual Executive Sleep Out supporting homeless youth and raising funds and awareness for Covenant House Vancouver

If your life had a theme song, what would it be?
I have two:
One Man Can Change the World – Big Sean ft Kanye and John Legend
Don’t Worry, Be Happy – Bobby McFerrin
Where do you see yourself in 3 years?
Running a global lifestyle consulting company that focuses on image consulting, clothing, fitness and health.
What legacy do you want to leave for future generations?
I want to share my message globally about taking care of your health through fitness and nutrition and putting your best foot forward through style and fashion. Through this, I want people to become their own style icon.
What One book would you recommend for any Man?
Four Agreements: A practical guide to personal freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
 
If you know a Man that is making a positive impact on the world, we would love to hear from you! Contact us at [email protected]
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Tim JP Collins – Understanding Anxiety

Tim JP CollinsEpisode: 022

Tim talks on how you can better manage your anxiety.

 
 
 
Introduction:
There is no quick fix for anxiety, which is why Tim JP Collins is the host of The Anxiety Podcast. He is also a life coach and provides peer support about anxiety using his own personal experiences. He talks to Connor and Roger on the topic of anxiety, how to cope with it, and why it’s such a passionate topic for him.
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Key Takeaways:
[1:20] Why did Tim become a life coach?
[9:30] What is anxiety?
[12:00] Can anxiety be ‘cured’?
[16:50] Stress vs. anxiety?
[22:45] Humans have a natural negative bias.
[24:25] How can men handle sexual performance anxiety?
[26:45] What’s Tim’s coaching process like?
[36:10] Everybody struggles with something. You’re not alone.
[40:10] Tim talks about his podcast.
[42:50] What does it mean to be a man today?
[44:40] A man will have the tough and uncomfortable conversations. A boy will not want to talk about it.
[46:00] What’s Tim’s definition of success?
[50:45] 70% of CEOs don’t have MBAs.
[51:10] What kind of legacy would Tim like to leave behind?
 

Mentioned In This Episode:

 
Music Credit:
J Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)

Tweetables:
“Anxiety is where you’re worried about the future and constantly going through worst case scenarios.”
“Humans are designed with a negative bias. We’re designed to look for the bad stuff. We were designed to survive.”
“Everybody is better off by having those tough conversations.”

Growing Up Without Male Role Models with Ryan Michler

Episode: 021

Why is it so important for young boys and young adults to have a father figure in their life?

Introduction:
Ryan Michler is the founder of Order of Man, a website designed to help men succeed in business, family, and everything in between. Ryan was inspired to create this valuable resource for men, because he grew up without a strong father figure in his life. Ryan talks to both Connor and Roger on what it was like growing up with unreliable step-fathers, men’s desire to be constantly challenged, and why the military’s structure can sometimes be a good thing.
 
In this Podcast, Ryan talks about growing up without a proper male role model, the impact, being in the military and why he start the Order of Man.
 
This Podcast episode is for men who want to overcome adversity, build a brotherhood and who are looking to be challenged in their life.
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Key Takeaways:
[1:00] What does Ryan do?
[1:35] Ryan never had a male role model growing up.
[3:55] Why has the father figure become more and more absent in young boys’ lives?
[5:10] What’s the biggest challenge for a man today?
[7:25] In order to grow, men need to be challenged.
[9:45] When did Ryan realize something was missing in his life?
[11:20] You become a man when you accept personal accountability and responsibility for your own life.
[14:20] Ryan talks about the military.
[16:45] Exercise and reflection are the two most important elements every man should incorporate.
[18:40] Your decisions are going to carry over into other aspects of your life.
[20:50] Number one book: Resilience by Eric Greitens
[25:10] Ryan talks on why he started his podcast.
[27:40] Who are Ryan’s mentors?
[30:20] What are Ryan’s core beliefs?
[36:50] Have clarity for what you want to do or else you’ll fill your life with miscellaneous stuff.
[39:00] Listen to your gut.
[40:30] What legacy would Ryan like to leave?
 

Mentioned in This Episode:
The Millionaire Mindset by Gary Keller
Resilience by Eric Greitens

 
Music Credit:
J Parlange & Latenite Automatic (jesusparlange.com – lateniteautomatic.com)
Tweetables:
͆We’ve become so self-centered that we forget that there’s other people.”
͆We idealized the lone wolf syndrome and yet we are tribal by nature.”
͆Men naturally thrive off being challenged.”

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